This week I published my book-notes on the book The Courage to be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga. Here are some of my favourite highlights from the book. You can check out the entire book-notes using the link below.
Right now, you are unable to feel really happy. This is because you have not learned to love yourself. And to try to love yourself, you are wishing to be reborn as a different person. You’re hoping to become like Y, and throw away who you are now.
The important thing is not what one is born with, but what use one makes of that equipment.’ You want to be Y or someone else because you are utterly focused on what you were born with. Instead, you’ve got to focus on what you can make of your equipment.
People can change at any time, regardless of the environments they are in. You are only unable to change because you are making the decision not to.
‘If only I could be someone like Y, I’d be happy.’ As long as you live that way, in the realm of the possibility of ‘if only such and such were the case’, you will never be able to change. Because saying ‘if only I could be like Y’ is an excuse to yourself for not changing.
We are not living to satisfy other people’s expectations.